REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 1)

Hi guys! Welcome back to my blog. don't be bored visiting my blog! Now I will discuss the contents of the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck.

Chapter 1 : Dont Try

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In this chapter beginning with Bukowski's story, is a novelist who began his career in his 50s. He managed to publish 6 novels, hundreds of poems, and sell more than two million copies. But the story of his life is not far from alcohol, drugs, gambling, and women. Even though he is a successful writer, He is actually a loser. The success he achieved was not able to transform himself into a better person.

In my opinion, Manson tries to distinguish between success and self-improvement. As he wrote in his book

“Self-Improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the same thing.”

Success does not guarantee someone to be better. An example is Bukowski. The community paradigm of success is always associated with material. Success is getting a high-paying job, or becoming popular, having a luxury car, a nice house, a beautiful / handsome wife / girlfriend. And a better life means more money, more ownership, more wealth. So, in the end we have the ambition to have high-paying jobs, become popular. Focus to be more. Actually there is nothing wrong with having more material or physical, but the problem is too focused to be more. Too much care about what is the standard of success is not good for us. Because we will dedicate our lives to pursue "success" and satisfaction that does not necessarily guarantee happiness and make us a better person.

The highlight of this chapter is when he explains that wanting a good experience is a bad experience. And the bad experience itself is a good experience. Well, he wrote it like this (maybe our interpretation is different)

“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience itself a positive experience” (pages 9)

If we want to be rich. The more we want to be rich, the more we feel poor, the more we feel the lack of how much money we make. Or the more we want to be beautiful, the more we feel ugly, even though maybe we already look beautiful or we are not bad. That is, we do not feel grateful for what we have. When we accept what we have now or when we can still accept a failure, isn't that better than being obsessed with being someone more?

In this chapter, Mark explains why we must be smart in choosing which ones we deserve to be concerned about and which ones we should ignore. Because not all things deserve our attention, especially when we experience a problem or difficulty (negative experiences).

Chapter 2 : Happiness is a problem

In this second chapter Mark Manson argues that life is a form of misery and happiness that results from solving the problem / misery itself. The rich are miserable with their wealth and the poor are miserable with their poverty. But that doesn't mean the misery that everyone feels is the same, some misery is certainly more painful than others. But he tried to explain that life cannot be avoided from difficulties, distress or pain. Because the pain of an experience teaches us to give attention to our former self and the carelessness that we do. Having trouble is not the wrong thing. Having trouble and pain benefits us to understand the reality that is around us.

“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one”

So, as long as we live, we will continue to face problems and difficulties. And never expect to live without problems, except hoping for life filled with problems that can make us better. Instead we have to ask ourselves when we feel we have never experienced difficulties. And happiness will come when we can solve problems. happiness is a form of action, activity, not something that suddenly comes to us without cause. Happiness is a response to what we do. And happiness requires struggle. 

So, thats review from me. Be grateful for what you have, fight for what can make you happy. thank you for visiting my blog, don't forget to leave a nice comment! see you on next chapter! love u!❤️