REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 3)

Assalamualaikum wr.wb so welcome back to my blog guys! just like what i said in the precious article that there is continuation for chapter 5 and chapter 6. enjoy!💗


Chapter 5 : You are Always Choosing

In chapter 5, Mark tells the story of William James who has physical limitations and his life is always arranged by his father. Up to one point where he rebelled and chose to live his life regardless of what his father wanted. He decided to responsible for his life. Whatever he chooses for his life he will do and bear all the risks.

We, Individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances.

Everyone is responsible for his life, no matter what happens around us. This principle is done by William James. Whether for mistakes or not, he will be responsible for the life he chooses. He does not choose to be born imperfect, but he must continue to live his life like everyone else. He also chose to drop out of medical school at Harvard and go on an adventure to the Amazon jungle, still he chose it and responsible of his choices. He knew his father would be angry and choose not to go home, then he chose it. He faced every risk he received for the choices he made.

Even so with us. We are born to always choose to live our lives. We are always faced with choices every day. And this is part of life. We cannot avoid choice. They always wait for us, the endless queue of choices. Unless you’re dead.

We also have to be accountable to ourselves for things we don't want. Because we are given a choice of how we see things, how we respond to what happened, and how we interpret what has happened.

When we are overwritten by a problem, we will unconsciously find out what caused it. Who is wrong so we get this problem and who should be responsible for our bad luck. And it is not uncommon for us to blame other people or circumstances out there that have made us suffer. We feel that we are the ones who suffer the most and others who are wrong. We continue to blame other people and others who are on our side pay more attention to us, and we enjoy it very much. We post it on Instagram and people pay attention to your feed without seeing clearly what happened actually. We called it victim victim hood.

Being responsible for yourself is far more important than blaming other people / circumstances, because that's where we learn to face difficulties in life and grow to be more mature. That's where the real-life improvement comes from. Because blaming other people is tantamount to hurting yourself.

Chapter 6 : We’re Wrong about Everything

Maybe you still remember the debate that the earth is round. Or the theory that explains that the earth is the center of the solar system and the sun moves around the earth. Science develops at any time and can change at any time. What we believe now can be wrong in the future. In the past, everyone believed that women's duty was only to take care of the kitchen and raising children. Women must not work and must stay at home. Civilization is progressing and the values ​​in society are shifting. Women have equal rights with men, not only taking care of the kitchen and raising children, but also have the right to work and develop their potential.

Likewise, the values ​​that we believe in today may be wrong in the future. Nothing is certain unless that has happened. So, we have to test our value. In the past, we would assume the tattooed person was a thug and a bad person. Today, tattoos are art. Anyone can have a tattoo, and tattooed people aren't necessarily bad people. Another example is the value that I believe is silent, is a way of responding to annoying people. When someone makes fun of me, lowers me or blames me, the way I respond to them is to be quiet. But, when it turns out to turn out it makes the annoying person more happy with his actions, it turns out that silence is not the right answer. I have to speak out to defend myself when they do hurt my self-respect, morals, values ​​, and self-worth. Silence is not the right response in this case. So, I was wrong. It's the same thing when we face our fears. "I can't ride a flying fox because I'm afraid of heights and I'll faint when I ride a flying fox" or "I can't talk in front of many people for fear of being the center of attention. I must be embarrassing if I stay the center of attention ". We don't know because we never tried. We know the exact answer when we have done it.

Since childhood, we are taught to always be confident in ourselves so we can be confident. However, Mark Manson had other thoughts. Instead, we must question that belief in ourselves. What do I believe is correct? What if what I believe is wrong? if I am wrong, what is the worst thing that will happen to me? What can I learn if I am wrong? After I knew I was wrong, would I be better than me who didn't make a mistake? And I think, with this it seems like you want to know whether we are wrong or right, avoid us from feeling the right because we believe that what we believe may be wrong.

so i think its enough for today, we continue the review next week, ok?! don't forget to visit my blog again for next week for the new chaper reviewing this book. thankyou!♥️