REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 2)

hallo guys welcome back to my blog!☺️ now i would like to continues my previous blog that reviewing the book : the subtle art of not giving a fuck. now we are already to chapter 3 & 4. here we go!

Chapter 3 : You are not Special

Starting with the story of Jimmy who was too confident and too positive about him. Or in this book, it is called "Entitlement" or "Privileges". Feel that he is great so he must get special treatment. That the world will always work for itself without doing anything.

According to Manson, there are two categories of entitlement:

1. I am great and the others are not, so I get special treatment.

2. Other people are great and I am not, so I get special treatment.

Although it looks different, essentially the same wants special treatment. Jimmy is an example of the first category. Mark Manson shows himself for the second category. He had trauma in the past related to drugs, families who experience bankruptcy, divorce from parents, so he feels he needs special treatment. But in the end, he realized that entitlement was a problem and not good for him.

In my opinion, Mark tries to explain that life treats us equally no matter who we are. When we have a problem, it is very likely that everyone has experienced it in the past, or is experiencing the same problem at this time, and may also experience it in the future. Of course in a different form but the same core. This is the highlight of this chapter.

Then, if it's not to be someone special, what's the point?

Our cultural standard of success is "be extraordinary", being someone who is extraordinarily great or special. Many people are afraid to become ordinary people because they believe that ordinary people never do anything, never get better, and their lives are meaningless. A person who is truly special in a matter does not feel special. On the contrary, they feel mediocre so that they continually make improvements so that they are unknowingly special.

Chapter 4 : The Value of Suffering

To explain the essence of the difficulty, Mark told of Lieutenant Hiroo Onoda, a Japanese soldier, who chose to be in the interior of the Philippines to show his loyalty to the country even though the war was over. He also told about Suzuki, an adventurer who managed to find Hiroo Onoda in the interior of the Philippines.

In real life, we ​​might have met people who chose to be in trouble, like Onoda and Suzuki. For example, in a small matter, why would someone prefer to travel by public transportation even though he has a private vehicle? Or why would anyone choose to eat spicy food when it tortures him? Why do people challenge death to get a satisfaction? To be able to answer these questions we must understand the values, values ​​that we hold in everyday life.

The highlight of this chapter is understanding the values ​​we hold. If we want to change how we see a problem, we must change the value we hold and the size of the value itself. And we are also invited to understand which values ​​are good and which values ​​are bad.

In this fourth chapter, Mark tells a guitarist named Dave Mustaine. He was expelled from his first band for a reason he did not understand. He asks why this happened to him. Until one day he promised to make a new band and his new band would be more successful than the band that issued it. His new band group named Megadeth and managed to sell more than 25 million albums. He became one of the most talented musicians and had a great influence on the world of metal music. But he still felt that he was a failure because he did not succeed in becoming more successful than the band that released him, Metallica, which managed to sell more than 180 million albums worldwide. Dave felt his success was a failure because the size of Dave's success was more popular than the previous band, Metallica. And this can happen in our lives when the value we hold is good but the size of this value is not right. The size of success for everyone is not the same even though the value we hold is the same.

Self-awareness Onion

Stage 1: Understand simply the emotions we are feeling. At least we know if we are angry, happy, disappointed, sad, and so on.

Stage 2: The ability to ask why we feel these emotions. Ask yourself why we feel happy, what is the reason we feel happy now.

Stage: Personal value. Value is the values ​​that we hold and underlie what we will do.

When we face difficulties, we can apply the Self-awareness onion method to ourselves. Try to peel each layer of what actually happened. If the values ​​that we believe are good values, then we will see that the difficulties we face today are something that is good for us and will have a positive impact on us. Because self-improvement itself is prioritizing better values, and choosing which things we should make our attention. Because when you give a better fuck, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

so thats the review for chapter 3 and 4, so much lesson that we can get after reading this book, thankyou for reading my blog, next chapter will be uploaded as fast as possible. enjoy!♥️♥️