REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 4)

welcome back to my blog! finally we arrived at the last part to review the subtle art of giving a book. this part is different from the previous part which only discussed 2 chapters but in this part I discuss 3 chapters and what makes this part special is when the last chapter is about death. curious? so, here we go!

Chapter 7 : Failure is The Way Forward

Failure is not the end of everything, it is part of a process. He is the beginning of our journey. When someone is better at something compared to us, it means he has failed more in that compared to us. For example, your best friend is better at driving a car than you. That is to say, he practices more often than you and might hit something more than you. Or your sister is better at baking than you, meaning she has repeatedly hurt her hand because of the hot oven or many times the cake she produces is formless. So, if we want to be better at something, prepare to feel a failure. Be prepared to feel pain from failure. Because both are part of a process. If I want to be a writer, I have to be ready for my writing not to be read by people. If you want to become a public figure, that means you have to be ready to be the center of attention and all of your behavior will always be commented on by everyone.



There will be a time when what we think happens otherwise. We think that if we do what we should do, we will succeed. For example, I think with a GPA of 3.6 everything will be smooth. Work will be easy to get and people will always believe in my abilities. But what happened is just the opposite. GPA is not everything and needs another effort to convince people of my abilities. Many times I was rejected and I was humbled many times. It hurts a lot actually. Maybe some of you are starting to do business. Time and again you lose and maybe cheated and then get into debt. I am not a businessman, but at least my relatives and friends do business so they know how painful and stressful they were at that time.

There are parts that I underlined in this chapter

If you're stuck on a problem, don't sit there and think about it; just start working on it. even if you don't know what you're doing, the simple act of working will show up to show up in your head.

So, don't wait for motivation to do something. when it fails, do something. Just do it even though we don't know where we are going to take it. just do it even though we don't know whether what we are doing is right or wrong. The same is true when we take part in a marathon competition. When we feel tired and want to give up, run, or maybe walk. Even though we don't know what our strength is, walk. Just keep moving forward. If you like writing, then at one point you are stuck, run out of ideas and don't know what to write. Get up, turn on your computer or open your book. Write it, even though we don't know what we write is good or not. just write. Because from there we will know the power of the word "Do something!".

Chapter 8 : The Importance of Saying No

A little different from other writings when explaining about saying nothing will. Say no not only to the invitation of others but to yourself. When we decide to care about something, that means there are other things we ignore. In other words, we say no to things we don't care about, even though sometimes that is a good thing.

We all have to give a fuck about something, in order to value something. And for value something, we must reject what is not that something. To value X, we must reject non-X.

When we have chosen a choice (as you know that life is about choosing), we must refuse and say no to choices we don't choose. It might be easy if it is exemplified in the form of goods. But, I will show things that are more abstract but real. You choose to be someone who is honest when interacting with other people. That is, you have refused to tell lies to your interlocutor, whether it's good or bad. Then, one day a close friend of yours tells you about his work problem and asks for your opinion. He feels his boss is too demanding so he always does many things and always overtime every day. You know that your friend actually likes to procrastinate. Always come late and watch YouTube during business hours. If you choose your value, you 'll tell the truth to your friend. You will tell the truth and reject bad feelings because he is your close friend. Even though your opinion will hurt his feelings, you will still say it. But not only here, but you also have to set the boundaries. You must be able to decide your limits. The extent to which you are involved in his problems. Limiting also one form of saying no. Your value is, to tell the truth, but you have to reject to judge your friend. Tell your opinion with honesty, even though your friend might not accept it. But you have no right to scold him and corner him, and you have no right to solve the problem. Position yourself only to the extent of giving other views, not as a judge who punishes him or as a hero who will help him.

And setting limits when you reject something also applies to you. In that sense, you have the right to refuse other people to get involved deep into your problem. If the position is reversed, you have a problem and ask for your friend's opinion, then your friend judges you, you have the right to tell him that you don't like him when he blames you. If in fact you are wrong, and you admit it, but you are embarrassed to admit your mistakes, you have the right to refuse your shame to admit your mistakes.

When we say no to something or reject something, of course, there are people who will disagree with our opinions or attitudes. Then the conflict arises.

Conflict to show us who is there unconditionally and who is just there for benefits

If your friend accepts your view with a broad heart (even though he disagrees with you) and sincerely thank you, he/she is your true friend. However, if he does not accept your views and thinks you are pretentious, he is there only for his / her benefit.

Besides conflict, another thing that arises when you have chosen is commitment. Commitment to a choice makes you focus on your choices. When you are committed to always saying and being honest, you will focus on learning to be someone who is honest. You will find out what the truth is. And you will dig deeper into honesty.

Chapter 9 : And Then You Die

This is about our legacy. We will die. I will die and you will die. After we die, what do people want to know about us? I will not explain this part straightforwardly. Just one question to explain this part, "What will people remember about me when I died?". So, do we have to give a review about the unimportant and frivolous things just for we die?

many lessons we can take from this book. in this chapter the author invites us to do things that are useful for our lives before we die.

so this is the result of my book review of the subtle art of giving a fuck. we may have different perceptions after reading and evaluating this book. because this is the last part, this means the last week before I take the final semester exam. I beg your friends to pray so that they can make the exam easier, i apologize if there is any mistakes. thank you for visiting my blog!