The Advantages of Reading

Assalamualaikum.wr.wb
hey! lets read my article for a while. this time I'm not going to continue reviewing the book, but I will tell you about the benefits of reading. here we go!

first, with a lot of reading your knowledge will increase. Based on my experience, when I read a lot of blogs and articles on the internet, the more information I got, the more information we will get.

second, reading the article can add vocabulary. reading articles in English can add vocabularies that we did not know before.

third, we will be more motivated. when we read blogs and articles people can take lessons from a person's life experience.

finally, Reading published and well-written works has a real impact on someone's writing. The reason is observing the rhythm, flow, and writing style of others can affect your own work.

So, lets start looking for something good to read, because reading can give you many benefits. thank you for reading! ❣️

REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 4)

welcome back to my blog! finally we arrived at the last part to review the subtle art of giving a book. this part is different from the previous part which only discussed 2 chapters but in this part I discuss 3 chapters and what makes this part special is when the last chapter is about death. curious? so, here we go!

Chapter 7 : Failure is The Way Forward

Failure is not the end of everything, it is part of a process. He is the beginning of our journey. When someone is better at something compared to us, it means he has failed more in that compared to us. For example, your best friend is better at driving a car than you. That is to say, he practices more often than you and might hit something more than you. Or your sister is better at baking than you, meaning she has repeatedly hurt her hand because of the hot oven or many times the cake she produces is formless. So, if we want to be better at something, prepare to feel a failure. Be prepared to feel pain from failure. Because both are part of a process. If I want to be a writer, I have to be ready for my writing not to be read by people. If you want to become a public figure, that means you have to be ready to be the center of attention and all of your behavior will always be commented on by everyone.



There will be a time when what we think happens otherwise. We think that if we do what we should do, we will succeed. For example, I think with a GPA of 3.6 everything will be smooth. Work will be easy to get and people will always believe in my abilities. But what happened is just the opposite. GPA is not everything and needs another effort to convince people of my abilities. Many times I was rejected and I was humbled many times. It hurts a lot actually. Maybe some of you are starting to do business. Time and again you lose and maybe cheated and then get into debt. I am not a businessman, but at least my relatives and friends do business so they know how painful and stressful they were at that time.

There are parts that I underlined in this chapter

If you're stuck on a problem, don't sit there and think about it; just start working on it. even if you don't know what you're doing, the simple act of working will show up to show up in your head.

So, don't wait for motivation to do something. when it fails, do something. Just do it even though we don't know where we are going to take it. just do it even though we don't know whether what we are doing is right or wrong. The same is true when we take part in a marathon competition. When we feel tired and want to give up, run, or maybe walk. Even though we don't know what our strength is, walk. Just keep moving forward. If you like writing, then at one point you are stuck, run out of ideas and don't know what to write. Get up, turn on your computer or open your book. Write it, even though we don't know what we write is good or not. just write. Because from there we will know the power of the word "Do something!".

Chapter 8 : The Importance of Saying No

A little different from other writings when explaining about saying nothing will. Say no not only to the invitation of others but to yourself. When we decide to care about something, that means there are other things we ignore. In other words, we say no to things we don't care about, even though sometimes that is a good thing.

We all have to give a fuck about something, in order to value something. And for value something, we must reject what is not that something. To value X, we must reject non-X.

When we have chosen a choice (as you know that life is about choosing), we must refuse and say no to choices we don't choose. It might be easy if it is exemplified in the form of goods. But, I will show things that are more abstract but real. You choose to be someone who is honest when interacting with other people. That is, you have refused to tell lies to your interlocutor, whether it's good or bad. Then, one day a close friend of yours tells you about his work problem and asks for your opinion. He feels his boss is too demanding so he always does many things and always overtime every day. You know that your friend actually likes to procrastinate. Always come late and watch YouTube during business hours. If you choose your value, you 'll tell the truth to your friend. You will tell the truth and reject bad feelings because he is your close friend. Even though your opinion will hurt his feelings, you will still say it. But not only here, but you also have to set the boundaries. You must be able to decide your limits. The extent to which you are involved in his problems. Limiting also one form of saying no. Your value is, to tell the truth, but you have to reject to judge your friend. Tell your opinion with honesty, even though your friend might not accept it. But you have no right to scold him and corner him, and you have no right to solve the problem. Position yourself only to the extent of giving other views, not as a judge who punishes him or as a hero who will help him.

And setting limits when you reject something also applies to you. In that sense, you have the right to refuse other people to get involved deep into your problem. If the position is reversed, you have a problem and ask for your friend's opinion, then your friend judges you, you have the right to tell him that you don't like him when he blames you. If in fact you are wrong, and you admit it, but you are embarrassed to admit your mistakes, you have the right to refuse your shame to admit your mistakes.

When we say no to something or reject something, of course, there are people who will disagree with our opinions or attitudes. Then the conflict arises.

Conflict to show us who is there unconditionally and who is just there for benefits

If your friend accepts your view with a broad heart (even though he disagrees with you) and sincerely thank you, he/she is your true friend. However, if he does not accept your views and thinks you are pretentious, he is there only for his / her benefit.

Besides conflict, another thing that arises when you have chosen is commitment. Commitment to a choice makes you focus on your choices. When you are committed to always saying and being honest, you will focus on learning to be someone who is honest. You will find out what the truth is. And you will dig deeper into honesty.

Chapter 9 : And Then You Die

This is about our legacy. We will die. I will die and you will die. After we die, what do people want to know about us? I will not explain this part straightforwardly. Just one question to explain this part, "What will people remember about me when I died?". So, do we have to give a review about the unimportant and frivolous things just for we die?

many lessons we can take from this book. in this chapter the author invites us to do things that are useful for our lives before we die.

so this is the result of my book review of the subtle art of giving a fuck. we may have different perceptions after reading and evaluating this book. because this is the last part, this means the last week before I take the final semester exam. I beg your friends to pray so that they can make the exam easier, i apologize if there is any mistakes. thank you for visiting my blog!

REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 3)

Assalamualaikum wr.wb so welcome back to my blog guys! just like what i said in the precious article that there is continuation for chapter 5 and chapter 6. enjoy!💗


Chapter 5 : You are Always Choosing

In chapter 5, Mark tells the story of William James who has physical limitations and his life is always arranged by his father. Up to one point where he rebelled and chose to live his life regardless of what his father wanted. He decided to responsible for his life. Whatever he chooses for his life he will do and bear all the risks.

We, Individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances.

Everyone is responsible for his life, no matter what happens around us. This principle is done by William James. Whether for mistakes or not, he will be responsible for the life he chooses. He does not choose to be born imperfect, but he must continue to live his life like everyone else. He also chose to drop out of medical school at Harvard and go on an adventure to the Amazon jungle, still he chose it and responsible of his choices. He knew his father would be angry and choose not to go home, then he chose it. He faced every risk he received for the choices he made.

Even so with us. We are born to always choose to live our lives. We are always faced with choices every day. And this is part of life. We cannot avoid choice. They always wait for us, the endless queue of choices. Unless you’re dead.

We also have to be accountable to ourselves for things we don't want. Because we are given a choice of how we see things, how we respond to what happened, and how we interpret what has happened.

When we are overwritten by a problem, we will unconsciously find out what caused it. Who is wrong so we get this problem and who should be responsible for our bad luck. And it is not uncommon for us to blame other people or circumstances out there that have made us suffer. We feel that we are the ones who suffer the most and others who are wrong. We continue to blame other people and others who are on our side pay more attention to us, and we enjoy it very much. We post it on Instagram and people pay attention to your feed without seeing clearly what happened actually. We called it victim victim hood.

Being responsible for yourself is far more important than blaming other people / circumstances, because that's where we learn to face difficulties in life and grow to be more mature. That's where the real-life improvement comes from. Because blaming other people is tantamount to hurting yourself.

Chapter 6 : We’re Wrong about Everything

Maybe you still remember the debate that the earth is round. Or the theory that explains that the earth is the center of the solar system and the sun moves around the earth. Science develops at any time and can change at any time. What we believe now can be wrong in the future. In the past, everyone believed that women's duty was only to take care of the kitchen and raising children. Women must not work and must stay at home. Civilization is progressing and the values ​​in society are shifting. Women have equal rights with men, not only taking care of the kitchen and raising children, but also have the right to work and develop their potential.

Likewise, the values ​​that we believe in today may be wrong in the future. Nothing is certain unless that has happened. So, we have to test our value. In the past, we would assume the tattooed person was a thug and a bad person. Today, tattoos are art. Anyone can have a tattoo, and tattooed people aren't necessarily bad people. Another example is the value that I believe is silent, is a way of responding to annoying people. When someone makes fun of me, lowers me or blames me, the way I respond to them is to be quiet. But, when it turns out to turn out it makes the annoying person more happy with his actions, it turns out that silence is not the right answer. I have to speak out to defend myself when they do hurt my self-respect, morals, values ​​, and self-worth. Silence is not the right response in this case. So, I was wrong. It's the same thing when we face our fears. "I can't ride a flying fox because I'm afraid of heights and I'll faint when I ride a flying fox" or "I can't talk in front of many people for fear of being the center of attention. I must be embarrassing if I stay the center of attention ". We don't know because we never tried. We know the exact answer when we have done it.

Since childhood, we are taught to always be confident in ourselves so we can be confident. However, Mark Manson had other thoughts. Instead, we must question that belief in ourselves. What do I believe is correct? What if what I believe is wrong? if I am wrong, what is the worst thing that will happen to me? What can I learn if I am wrong? After I knew I was wrong, would I be better than me who didn't make a mistake? And I think, with this it seems like you want to know whether we are wrong or right, avoid us from feeling the right because we believe that what we believe may be wrong.

so i think its enough for today, we continue the review next week, ok?! don't forget to visit my blog again for next week for the new chaper reviewing this book. thankyou!♥️

REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 2)

hallo guys welcome back to my blog!☺️ now i would like to continues my previous blog that reviewing the book : the subtle art of not giving a fuck. now we are already to chapter 3 & 4. here we go!

Chapter 3 : You are not Special

Starting with the story of Jimmy who was too confident and too positive about him. Or in this book, it is called "Entitlement" or "Privileges". Feel that he is great so he must get special treatment. That the world will always work for itself without doing anything.

According to Manson, there are two categories of entitlement:

1. I am great and the others are not, so I get special treatment.

2. Other people are great and I am not, so I get special treatment.

Although it looks different, essentially the same wants special treatment. Jimmy is an example of the first category. Mark Manson shows himself for the second category. He had trauma in the past related to drugs, families who experience bankruptcy, divorce from parents, so he feels he needs special treatment. But in the end, he realized that entitlement was a problem and not good for him.

In my opinion, Mark tries to explain that life treats us equally no matter who we are. When we have a problem, it is very likely that everyone has experienced it in the past, or is experiencing the same problem at this time, and may also experience it in the future. Of course in a different form but the same core. This is the highlight of this chapter.

Then, if it's not to be someone special, what's the point?

Our cultural standard of success is "be extraordinary", being someone who is extraordinarily great or special. Many people are afraid to become ordinary people because they believe that ordinary people never do anything, never get better, and their lives are meaningless. A person who is truly special in a matter does not feel special. On the contrary, they feel mediocre so that they continually make improvements so that they are unknowingly special.

Chapter 4 : The Value of Suffering

To explain the essence of the difficulty, Mark told of Lieutenant Hiroo Onoda, a Japanese soldier, who chose to be in the interior of the Philippines to show his loyalty to the country even though the war was over. He also told about Suzuki, an adventurer who managed to find Hiroo Onoda in the interior of the Philippines.

In real life, we ​​might have met people who chose to be in trouble, like Onoda and Suzuki. For example, in a small matter, why would someone prefer to travel by public transportation even though he has a private vehicle? Or why would anyone choose to eat spicy food when it tortures him? Why do people challenge death to get a satisfaction? To be able to answer these questions we must understand the values, values ​​that we hold in everyday life.

The highlight of this chapter is understanding the values ​​we hold. If we want to change how we see a problem, we must change the value we hold and the size of the value itself. And we are also invited to understand which values ​​are good and which values ​​are bad.

In this fourth chapter, Mark tells a guitarist named Dave Mustaine. He was expelled from his first band for a reason he did not understand. He asks why this happened to him. Until one day he promised to make a new band and his new band would be more successful than the band that issued it. His new band group named Megadeth and managed to sell more than 25 million albums. He became one of the most talented musicians and had a great influence on the world of metal music. But he still felt that he was a failure because he did not succeed in becoming more successful than the band that released him, Metallica, which managed to sell more than 180 million albums worldwide. Dave felt his success was a failure because the size of Dave's success was more popular than the previous band, Metallica. And this can happen in our lives when the value we hold is good but the size of this value is not right. The size of success for everyone is not the same even though the value we hold is the same.

Self-awareness Onion

Stage 1: Understand simply the emotions we are feeling. At least we know if we are angry, happy, disappointed, sad, and so on.

Stage 2: The ability to ask why we feel these emotions. Ask yourself why we feel happy, what is the reason we feel happy now.

Stage: Personal value. Value is the values ​​that we hold and underlie what we will do.

When we face difficulties, we can apply the Self-awareness onion method to ourselves. Try to peel each layer of what actually happened. If the values ​​that we believe are good values, then we will see that the difficulties we face today are something that is good for us and will have a positive impact on us. Because self-improvement itself is prioritizing better values, and choosing which things we should make our attention. Because when you give a better fuck, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

so thats the review for chapter 3 and 4, so much lesson that we can get after reading this book, thankyou for reading my blog, next chapter will be uploaded as fast as possible. enjoy!♥️♥️

REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck (Part 1)

Hi guys! Welcome back to my blog. don't be bored visiting my blog! Now I will discuss the contents of the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck.

Chapter 1 : Dont Try

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In this chapter beginning with Bukowski's story, is a novelist who began his career in his 50s. He managed to publish 6 novels, hundreds of poems, and sell more than two million copies. But the story of his life is not far from alcohol, drugs, gambling, and women. Even though he is a successful writer, He is actually a loser. The success he achieved was not able to transform himself into a better person.

In my opinion, Manson tries to distinguish between success and self-improvement. As he wrote in his book

“Self-Improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they are the same thing.”

Success does not guarantee someone to be better. An example is Bukowski. The community paradigm of success is always associated with material. Success is getting a high-paying job, or becoming popular, having a luxury car, a nice house, a beautiful / handsome wife / girlfriend. And a better life means more money, more ownership, more wealth. So, in the end we have the ambition to have high-paying jobs, become popular. Focus to be more. Actually there is nothing wrong with having more material or physical, but the problem is too focused to be more. Too much care about what is the standard of success is not good for us. Because we will dedicate our lives to pursue "success" and satisfaction that does not necessarily guarantee happiness and make us a better person.

The highlight of this chapter is when he explains that wanting a good experience is a bad experience. And the bad experience itself is a good experience. Well, he wrote it like this (maybe our interpretation is different)

“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience itself a positive experience” (pages 9)

If we want to be rich. The more we want to be rich, the more we feel poor, the more we feel the lack of how much money we make. Or the more we want to be beautiful, the more we feel ugly, even though maybe we already look beautiful or we are not bad. That is, we do not feel grateful for what we have. When we accept what we have now or when we can still accept a failure, isn't that better than being obsessed with being someone more?

In this chapter, Mark explains why we must be smart in choosing which ones we deserve to be concerned about and which ones we should ignore. Because not all things deserve our attention, especially when we experience a problem or difficulty (negative experiences).

Chapter 2 : Happiness is a problem

In this second chapter Mark Manson argues that life is a form of misery and happiness that results from solving the problem / misery itself. The rich are miserable with their wealth and the poor are miserable with their poverty. But that doesn't mean the misery that everyone feels is the same, some misery is certainly more painful than others. But he tried to explain that life cannot be avoided from difficulties, distress or pain. Because the pain of an experience teaches us to give attention to our former self and the carelessness that we do. Having trouble is not the wrong thing. Having trouble and pain benefits us to understand the reality that is around us.

“Life is essentially an endless series of problems. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next one”

So, as long as we live, we will continue to face problems and difficulties. And never expect to live without problems, except hoping for life filled with problems that can make us better. Instead we have to ask ourselves when we feel we have never experienced difficulties. And happiness will come when we can solve problems. happiness is a form of action, activity, not something that suddenly comes to us without cause. Happiness is a response to what we do. And happiness requires struggle. 

So, thats review from me. Be grateful for what you have, fight for what can make you happy. thank you for visiting my blog, don't forget to leave a nice comment! see you on next chapter! love u!❤️

REVIEW : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck

Title: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * uck

Author: Mark Manson

Publisher: Harper One

Language : English & Bahasa

Genre: self improvement

Published: 2016

Page Pages: 240 pages

Let me tell you a short story, what makes me interested in reading and reviewing this book is i'm a very caring person even to the smallest thing, many people say that "care too much makes you hurt so much" and thats right, the more I care, the more i get hurt. I told all my anxiety to someone, and he advised me to read this book. After I read this book, i thought this book is very extraordinary book, this book is beyond my expectations.

This book is titled "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F * ck" (published 2016). This book is the first book from New York blogger writer, Mark Manson. Well the title sounds so rude, but the contents can give us a lot of insight. This book is a genre of self-improvement book and is the best-selling version of the New York Times and Globe and Mail. the cover of this book is dominated by orange with black title. Obviously the use of eccentric or frontal words in this book is not recommended for people under 17 years of age. I sometimes have to repeat reading a number of sentences to understand the message that being delivered, but fortunately, Mark pretty much gives examples of cases in each important discussion, making it easier for readers to understand.

Talking about 'Not giving a f * ck' does not mean 'don't care' about everything. We live in this world must be "necessary" to care about something. And what we can train is how we choose which one we care about something or someone we care about, also getting used to living with each other's problems, and enjoying the completion process.

This book is an anti-stream book. While self improvment book usually contains motivations such as "You Can!", "Success is easy", and all forms of support that invites us to think positive or see the world with a positive glasses. But not with this book, this book teaches us that life is full of problems, difficult, suffering and many negative things in it but teaches us to accept and live through all these problems. Overall, this book tries to comfort us from failure and even though we fall we'll still be okay. So for those of you who may be experiencing failure or desperate, reading and understanding this book is very helpful to see a problem from a different perspective. So, don't be surprised if a lot of the impolite impressions that Mark uses in explaining something because it is a characteristic of Mark Manson's writing.

I recommend this book is suitable for happiness seekers, or those who have just experienced failure and adversity, who feel not special and think that they are 'trash', don't have self-confidence, and various forms of life anxiety in other worlds, Even so Even though we have a stable life, it's good to listen to this book. This book can help us to be wiser, and be better at managing emotions. Happy reading guys!♡♥️

thankyou for visiting my blog, don't forget to leave a nice comment!❤️

Finland vs. Indonesia education system

Did you know that a country that has the best education system in the world is not big countries and super power like the United States, Russia, or Japan. But Finland. Yep, the country that is geographically located in the northern hemisphere is bestowed with the title as the country with the best education system in the world. There are several things that distinguish the education system in Finland from the education system used by Indonesia, including:

1. Differences In Learning Hours
Did you know that for every 45 minutes students in Finland study, they are entitled to a 15-minute break? Finnish people believe that the best ability of students to absorb new knowledge taught will come, if they have the opportunity to rest the brain and build a new focus. They also become more productive in the learning hours because they understand that they will soon be able to play again.
In addition to increasing the focus skills above, having a longer break at school also actually has health benefits. They become more active in moving and playing, not just sitting in class. It's good if you don't get kids from small to sit too much.
however, unlike the education system in Indonesia. The education system in Indonesia implements full day school Fullday, namely by adding learning hours provided by students around 7 am to 4 pm, and usually students are only given 2 times rest with a duration of about 30 minutes each. This full day school certainly causes a lot of pros and cons from various parties, but the full day scholl is expected so that students do not waste their time in vain and do things that are distorted outside of school activities.

2. National Examinations
There is no national examination in Finland because every teacher in Finland really understands the potential of their students so that the teachers are tasked with evaluating their students. Unlike in Indonesia, the national exam determines the intelligence of children, and if the child can complete the national exam and get the highest score then he can choose the continuation of the school they want or they can enter a favorite school in Indonesia.

3. Ranking System
 Government efforts to improve the quality of schools and teachers uniformly in Finland ultimately led to the hope that all students in Finland could be smart. Without exception. Therefore, they do not trust the ranking or competition system which in the end will only produce 'a number of smart students' and 'a number of stupid students'. This system is of course the opposite of the system in Indonesia that applies the ranking for each student, there is even the title 'golden child' who is considered smart in all subjects and usually in the teacher's love. Of course this has a bad impact on children who are considered less intelligent.

That is the difference in the education system in Finland and in Indonesia, hopefully the Indonesian education system will be even better. Thank you for reading this article, hopefully you can add insight. Don't forget to leave a constructive comment

How To Build a Perfect Relationship

“Love brings up our unresolved feelings . One day we are feeling loved , and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love .
The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love .” 
― John Gray, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

I will share tips on how to build a perfect relationship. based on the book men are from mars and women are from venus, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors. i sure to help you strengthen and nurture your relationships for years to come.

This is a very important lesson throughout Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, because communication isn't always about talking or telling someone something, often about showing it or using non-verbal communication to convey your message.

According to Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, will give and give until they are satisfied with what they have done. This can be with emotions, money, effort, work, or physical objects. However, women will usually give in the hope that the man will reciprocate the movement.

This is where a lot of decisions can happen.

They may feel as if they are doing everything they can to show them how they want to receive it. However, maybe we don't recognize this, and maybe really think that their partner doesn't show love at all.


If both parties can understand that other partners only have different interpretations of what it means to show and give love, they can move forward.

Next, Both parties think they are heard and heard different things in the same conversation. This is one of the reasons why communication tends to be more effective when women are more direct.

According to John Gray, if a woman wants to go do something with a man, she shouldn't just ask him what he wants to do. She should, instead, tell her what she wants to do, and then ask him to join.

Also, she should ask if she would like to go do this thing that she wants to do, for her. Like, as a date. Because, if she doesn't specify this, the man can easily say, "no, I don't really feel like going to an Opera."

For example, this is an example of direct communication that doesn't blur the lines and allows both parties to communicate more clearly.

With this example, John Gray goes on to suggest the following scenario:

• The woman gives the man three options of what she wants to do on a date, a week in advance.
• The man gets to decide, but doesn't tell the woman until the date happens.
• This allows the woman to anticipate the date all week, while the man gets to feel like he made a decision, while still receiving clear communication on what types of dates she wants to go on.

It may sound like a lot of work, but the key is to start with direct communication on the woman's part. It can open up new doorways to successful interactions.

the next point we have to know is Men and Women Have Different Emotional Processes.
Emotions are closely related to the way we communicate. Emotions can entice us to say certain things, hold different things, or even respond in ways we might never think about. Emotions can also change our body language and the way we signal each other, even when we don't realize we are doing it.

Women's emotions rise and fall and have very high and very low. In general, women's emotions tend to fluctuate more than men.

Men tend to be a little more confident with their emotions, which can be positive and negative. Even though they don't have the depth of depression, they may not experience as high as they are when they are happy.

One of many areas of this impact has to do with "alone time." Men are much more vulnerable to wanting time alone when they feel emotions that cause them to feel afraid or uncomfortable. Men must be left alone for a while, where they feel safe, and should not be seen as negative by their female partners. Scientifically help them to build their testosterone and think more clearly. If given time to retreat to his safe room, a man will come out of this alone time once he has handled the problem internally.

A woman, on the other hand, may feel better by talking about it and may not understand why the male partner wants to spend time alone processing the problem.

Allowing women and men to process emotions in ways that are comfortable and natural for them is an important component to keeping the lines of communication free and open.

The last important point is understanding your partner is a great way to show appreciation.
Men and women are different. They are different physically, biologically, emotionally, almost in everything. However, the reason why this relationship can succeed in the end is because this problem provides balance. You only need to find that balance.

If you take the time to really understand your partner, it can really help them feel loved, valued and valued. Men and women are different, and it is important to accept and understand this. You may speak different languages, but if you take the time to really talk with your partner, you can talk a lot.

Take the time to do things like ask questions, put yourself in someone else's shoes, or even read relationship advice books, such as Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, to show others that you want to understand because you appreciate who them and that you want to communicate more clearly. This can help restore energy in your romantic relationship so that you and your partner can keep your relationship as healthy as possible.

that's how to build a perfect relationship from me, after all, the partner has a unique and different relationship, hopefully these tips are useful for you to improve your relationship or be useful for those of you who want to prepare a perfect relationship.thank you for reading, don't forget to leave your comment. ❤😂💕👫

JAVANESE NAMING TRADITIONS

As we know, each name has meaning, meaning, prayer and hope from every parent who gives names to their children. Every country has a unique and different name tradition. This time I will discuss the Javanese name tradition in Indonesia.

The basics used in naming Javanese include: birthday, birth month, neptu, serial number of children in the family, hopes or aspirations of parents, important events, wayang, a combination of father and mother, apostle / his friends, and Al Quran ...

1. Birth Day (Weton)

As we all know, Javanese generally assume that birthdays (weton) are important events that should not be forgotten throughout life. According to the Weton Javanese belief it is considered to be able to determine one's fate in everything. And, one way to always remember it, then the day of birth is used as a basis for naming the baby.

Weton or birthdays consist of dino (Senen, Tuesday, Rebo, Kemis, Jemuah, Setu, Ngahat) and markets (Legi, Pahing, Pon, Wage, Kliwon). Therefore, the names of some Javanese are also based on dino, market or a combination of both.

Examples of names that use a dino basis, as follows:

- Senan, Saniman, Saniah, given to children born on Monday.

- Lasa, Lasiman, Lasiah, Lasmini, Lasman, given to children born on Tuesday.

- Rebi, Rubinah, Rubiyo, given to children born on Wednesday.

- Kemis, Misman, Misiah, Kemin, were given to children born on Thursday.

- Jumidi, Jumali, Jumini, Juminah, Jumiyo, given to children born on Friday.

- Setu, Saptini, Sabeni, given to children born on Saturday.

- Ngadinah, Ngatiman, Ngatemi, Ngatino, given to children born on Ngahat day (Sunday).

Examples of names that use pasaran base are as follows:

- Legimin, Gino, Gito, Leginah, Ginah, given to children born on the market of Legi.

- Paino, Painem, Paimah, Paijo, Paimin, are given to children born on the Paing market.

- Ponirah, Poniman, Poinah, Ponijan, given to children born on the Pon market.

- Wagino, Wagiman, Waginah, Wagini, given to children born on the Wage market.

- Kliman, Klimin, Kliwon, given to children born on the Kliwon market.

- Tugino, Tuginah, Tugimin, Tugiman, given to children born on Saturday Legi.

Examples of names that use a combination of dino and pasaran are:

- Tugino, Tuginah, Tugimin, Tugiman, given to children born on Saturday Legi.

2. Birth Month

Javanese society in general, knows the Javanese month (Suro, Sapar, Mulud, Bakda Mulud, Jumadilawal, Jumadilakir, Rejeb, Ruwah, Poso, Sawal, Dulkangidah, Besar) and national month (January, February, March, April, May, June, July, August, September, October, November, December).

As a note, not all months (Java or national) are used as the basis for naming. For the names of the Javanese months, only a few are commonly used, including: Suro, Sapar, Maulud, Jumadilawal, Jumadilakir, Sawal, Besar. Whereas for the national months commonly used are January, March, April, May, June, July, August, September and November.

Examples of names that use the base of the Java month are:

- Surati, Suratmi, Suratinah, Suratmin, Suratman, are given to children born in Suro month.

- Sapariah, Suparmi, Supardi, Suparno, given to children born in the Sapar month.

- Mulyati, Mulyani, Mulyadi, Mulyono, is given to children born in the month of Mulud.

- Jumadi, Jumali, Juminah, Juminem, given to children born in Jumadilawal and Jumadilakir.

- Waljinah, Waluyo, Walgito, Walimin, Waluyan, given to children born in Sawal.

- Large, Bachelor, Saryanto, Saryanto, Sartini, Sarmini, Sarmina, Saryati, given to children born in the Big Month.

Examples of names that use the national month basis are:

- Aryani, Aryana, is given to children born in January.

- Maryati, Maryani, Maryono, Maryoto, Margono, given to children born in March.

- Apriati, Priatmi, Priono, Private, given to children born in April.

- Mei Hastuti, Meilani, given to children born in May.

- Yuni, Yunawati, Yuniarti, given to children born in June.

- Yuli Setyawati, Yuli Astuti, Yulianto, Yuliana, given to children born in July.

- Agustin, Agustinah, Agus, is given to children born in August.

- Septiani, Septianingsih, Saptoto, given to children born in September.

- Nofianto, Novianti, given to children born in November.

4. Child in Family Number

To remember the number of his child, the child's parents use the child's serial number (from the oldest to the youngest) as a basis for naming.

Example:

- The name that Eko uses is given to the number one child. For example: Eko Pratiwi, Ekorini, Ekasari, Eko Budi Santoso.

- Name using Dwi, given to child number two. For example: Dwi Asih, Dwi Anto, Dwi Cahyono.

- The name using Tri is given to child number three. For example Triono, Trianah, Tri Puji Astuti.

- Names that use Chess are given to child number four. For example Catur Wikansari, Catur Putranto, Caturini, and so on.

5. Parent's hunger or aspiration

Giving names based on parents' expectations or aspirations is:

- Name: Slamet, Widodo, Mulyono, Rahayu, has hope that the child will survive.

- Name: Prakoso, Santoso, Kuwato, contains hope that the child is strong or strong.

- Name: Margono, Sugiharto, Hartati, Hartini, Sri Rejeki has the hope that the child has a lot of sustenance or become a rich person.

- Name: Sabar, Trimo, Bariah, Sabarti, hope that the child will become a patient person.

- Name: Cahyono, Cahyadi, Kartikasari, Fajarini, contains hope that the child will be brilliant in his life.

6. Important events

Giving names based on an important event when the child is born for example is:

- Name: Merdekawati, Mardikani, Mardikoyuwono, given because the child was born at the time of independence (1945).

- Name: Linggarjati, because the child was born during the Linggarjati agreement.

- Name: Hariadi, Fitriani, because the child was born on Idul Fitri.

- Irianto, Irawati, iriani, the child was born during the expulsion of the Dutch from West Irian.

- Concerned, Suprihati, Prih Martini, because the child was born when his parents were in trouble (in a state of concern).

7. Puppet

Giving names based on the names of characters in wayang. It means that the child is spiritually and virtuous like the puppet characters. For example: Kunto Wibisono, Bimo Arioteja, Harjuno, Endang Suprobowati, Siti Sundari, Sri Sukesi, Sri Lestari, Sintawati and others.

8. Combined Father and Mother

Naming based on the name of the child's father and mother. For example: A husband named Maryono and his wife named Sundari, after having a child named Rinawati or Daryono.

9. Apostles / Friends

Giving names based on the names of the Prophet / Apostles or companions, contains the hope that the children who are given the name are of great soul such as the Prophet / Apostle or the companions. For example: Dawut, Ibrahim, Muhammad, Yusuf, Sulaiman, Yunus and so on.

10. Al Quran

Giving names based on the Holy Qur'an. For example: Rachmat, Taufik, Hasanah, Umi Kulsum, Nurjanah, Siai Aisyah, Hamidah and others.

that's how javanese naming traditions are, hopefully it can be useful and increase your insight. That is all and thank you. 💚💛

Different Names, Different Prayers.

Just like the title, this time I will discuss the meaning of a name. I think, a name is very meaningful, Every human being has a different name - so does the meaning, from every name given by a parent, the prayer they want for children is tucked away. So, every parent gives the best name for their child.

In 1999, exactly 19 years ago, in the city of Bogor, on January 19, at 7:00 a girl was born into the world, yes, it was me, I was born to a father of "Betawi" and a mother of "Sundanese". My parents gave me the name "Salsabila Fitriana Aliyya". Like other children, they must ask, why did my parents give names like that? Of course my parents gave me a name that had a prayer in it. "Salsabila" which means the spring of heaven, this salsabil spring also has the privilege of giving gifts to people who obey the command of God. my father gave the name salsabila, he said that later I would become a Muslim woman, and my father also thought that I would be a 'soothing' woman. aamiin. I was born right on the day of Eid al-Fitr, my mother said, when she wanted to go to pray ied, her stomach felt very heartburn, then my mother, my father, and my grandmother, immediately went to the hospital, when I arrived at the hospital, the doctor who handled my mother had just finished praying ied, he still brought 'mukena' hurrying to the delivery room, quite unique isn't it? I was born on a pure (suci) day. Therefore, my middle name is named "Fitri / Fitriana" which means pure (suci). And the last is my last name, "Aliyya" which means "high / great". So, if combined, my full name means "High Pure Springs" or in bahasa thats mean "Mata Air Suci yang Tinggi". After hearing that story from my parents, I thought, wow, my name was great, I really liked my name, and I would never change it, but unfortunately, when my parents make a birth certificate, a person typing certificate made a mistake in my name, it should "Salsabila Fitriana Aliyya", but on my name deed written Salsabila Fitrianaaliyya, to be honest I was very disappointed. But I hope the writing of the deed does not change the true meaning of my name.

Since I grew up, I have a purpose in life, one of them is I want to get married at  25th , and after marriage I want to have children as soon as possible, even though I do not know who will be my husband in future, but I have thought of some names later I will give to my children.In the past, I had the thought of having a child named "Senja" which means time before night, senja in my opinion means 'Shady'or in bahasa thats mean ‘Teduh’, yes, I want my child to be able to calm down or make shaded later, maybe this is not a trendy name, but I really like it, and this name can also be used for boys and girls. Besides that, I also want to have a son and I will give the name "Arka" in Javanese, Arka means "sun" I want my child "warm" like the sun. In addition, there are some of my favorite English names, such as "Azura" which means blue sky, "Alice" which means trust, and "Vernon" which means smart and young. I have not thought about what the full name for my child will be, for sure I want to have children with Senja and Arka names, maybe I will discuss it again with my future husband.